My Connections

There are two types of people - those who come into a room and say, "Well, here I am!" and those who come in and say, "Ah, there you are."  --Frederick L. Collins

I attend fetish events to go to workshops, have opportunity to meet really great people and to soak in the energy of being in “play-space”.  No fetish attire.  I wear simple black t-shirts, denims and black Army boots.  No hooking up.  If I want a relationship with you (even a strictly sexual one), you will give me time after the event.  I view the lifestyle as a path to expand my sense of sense.  It is not about getting some nookie.  It may have been how I entered the lifestyle; however, I am not that 20 something nymphet going to swinger parties and falling into the rabbit hole by way of an errant invitation. 

Today I am connecting with people who come into the room and say, “Ah, there you are!”  And it won’t matter we haven’t seen each other for a year or so.  The joy to reconnect will fuse time into a trivial concern.  What I’m wearing won’t matter.  Nor will their happiness to see me be contingent upon the possibility of me to drop my drawers.

I believe part of the reason so many people have post event ‘drop’ is because they attend thinking that this is *it* until the next event.  When I leave an event, I am excited.  I know that over the next few months I’m going to connect with some really great people.  (Doing my happy dance right now!)