Twisted Knickers, Not

“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it.” –Marcus Aurelius

Breadcrumbs were left by friends regarding a discussion thread about TNG, The Next Generation.  It’s a kinkster subset specifically for the youngest members of our community, those between 18 and 35 years old.  There are a couple ways around the age criteria.  I can attend by being a guest or partner of someone who is within the age limit.  That’s right, this almost 50 year old person can attend a TNG event if I am escorted by a TNG-er.  Or I can be the guest presenter/speaker at an event.  Yep, I can mingle with the all the newbies for doing a demo. 

Some believe the group is needed as a ‘gateway’ introduction to the lifestyle.  One can go to a munch without having to run into an older relative or having to deal with creepy old perverts with lecherous designs on fresh young things.  Some believe the group is all about ageism and provides no real service to the community.  All it does is create a false sense of security and it allows a generation to hide from the ‘elders’ while propagating bad habits.

TNG has left loopholes in its rulebook for people over-35 to attend their functions.  And I believe that is the salient argument of those who are against a group that has membership based upon age.  It appears the lowest age is the floor or a ‘hard limit’ because if the group is defined as 17-35, then a 16 year old may not attend.  Yet the group does not hold the upper age as a true ceiling, or an uppermost limit.  There are ways for people over-35 to be in attendance.

How about that early 40-something year old guy who goes to every event with the 20-something girlfriend he is dating that month?  He not only attends every TNG event, he helps to organize them too.  What about the late 40-something Mistress who shows up a few times a year with an under-35 pet?  She will leave her pet on a bar stool while making the rounds, chatting with all the unescorted subbies.

So as the rants and the “muck-rakery” continue, I think to myself that perhaps TNG should be limited to 29 years of age and a new group should be formed, The Transition Generation.  It would comprise of all the 30-somethings that didn’t want to be leered at by the old farts and not bothered by the antics of the kids.  If the kids want to go out and not have ‘people as old as their parents looking over their shoulders’, then maybe a 30-something doesn’t want to hang out in a bar with ‘kids not much older than their own children’.  (Snark alert)

I find the agruments for both sides to be flat and full of self-justification.  Personally I don’t give two flying fingerdoodles about either side of the subject.  The group exists.  I am excluded from the group because I do not meet all of its criteria.  Boo-hoo.  I’m so sad.  My feelings are really hurt.  Yeah, right.  Some groups aren’t my cup of tea and I wouldn’t join their membership even if I met all the criteria.  Like the KKK.  Or the Free Masons.  Or the Christian Coalition of America.

Being a exclusive club doesn’t make it or its members special.  If I wanted to attend a TNG Munch or party, I could find a 20-something subbie to take me to one.  However, I don’t want to attend a TNG munch.  I do not normally go to bars where the median age is in the mid 20s.  So why would I get my knickers in a twist over a munch?  However, if you are around my age and you do like going to bars where the median age is in the 20s, then please continue to do so.  While doing so, do realize munch attendance is not a civil liberty.

High Fidelity

“Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose” -- Helen Keller

Remember the old recording tape commercials?  "Is it live, or is it Memorex?"  It was back in the day when hi fi was the quest.  High Fidelity.  Most people when they hear ‘fidelity’ think of someone or something being pure, loyal, faithful.  If I were to make the request for fidelity, you probably would think I’m requesting sexual and emotional exclusivity.  Well you’re wrong.  When I hear the word ‘fidelity’ I think of accuracy, proper representation, in-your-face truth.

If you are all about the kink and only want it in the bedroom, there is no shame in admitting it.  This is critical information when negotiating for a play partner.  Are you a dominant type wanting to do the nasty with another dominant type?  Cool beans.  If you are into cross dressing, yet play it straight in all other aspects of your life, then strut in them heels!  There are gg’s (genetic girls) who think you’re sexy.  Are you someone who only wants to bind people up in rope so you can take some wicked snapshots?  Excellente, my friend.

Psst…psst… stop your multitasking, your wondering thoughts.  Pay attention.  Focus.

Fidelity works for me because it means you’ve passed the scrutiny wand over your life, your dreams, your deep recesses, your garbage.  I find fidelity sexy.  There’s something magnetic about a person who says, “This is who I am.  This is what I’m about.” AND THEY MEAN IT!

As we “Remember, Remember, the Fifth of November” at the The Geeky Kink Event, hit me up for a worthy purpose.  We are going to find out if it’s live or if it’s Memorex.