Saw a funny thing on the way to lunch...

“God is Pro-Life” –bumper sticker

Really?  I don’t think so.  God was not thinking pro-life when he sent the flood or set towns ablaze.  God sanctioned selective infanticide by an assassin in the middle of the night.

The ironic outcome from years of Sunday school and bible study was I stopped believing in a Judeo-Christian God.  I knew has a young child something was seriously wrong with what I had read and what I had been taught.  I formed my own thoughts. 

An enlightened being doesn’t kill to make their point or to teach a lesson.  An all-powerful being doesn’t respond with brute force to get his way, weak people do.  An all-knowing being doesn’t offer up free will to the newly created ‘kiddies’ and then gets angry when they exercise their free will.  If God were an all-knowing being then he would have known what all mere mortal parents know:  If you don’t want the kids to eat cookies, then don’t have them in the house.

August 23, 2011

“The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance.” -- Nathaniel Branden

School has started.  Daily musings cannot be daily this semester so I’m changing the title of my blog.

August 22, 2011

“Even more foolish is one who clings to words and phrases and thus tries to achieve understanding.  It is like trying to strike the moon with a stick, or scratching a shoe because there is an itchy spot on the foot.  It has nothing to do with the Truth.” –Yamada Mumon Roshi

Many of us in the lifestyle live in two worlds: public and kink.  Rarely the two shall meet.  So how do you know the really cool and funny person you met at a lifestyle event is a really cool and funny person 24/7?  You don’t.

Many moons ago I took a week off from work, rented a cabin in the middle of the woods and started to write my Dictionary.  I took pen to paper and started to write my own definitions to words like companion and success.  I spent seven years creating what was to be the start of a new life and eventually a workshop series.  My goal was to create a nonprofit self-discovery institute on 20 acres in Cooks Forest.  We would hold seminars and workshops for other like minded folk.  Creating a Personal Dictionary and Life Diary were to be the keystones of the institute.

Well, the Dictionary made an impact in my life.  It created a false security in those who were within my sacred circle.  After the loss of a long-term relationship, a fledging poly situation and a business, I no longer have a Dictionary.  I discovered people are not to be trusted with words, mine or theirs.  Today I observe.  I pay attention to behavior, to actions.

August 21, 2011

“A moment of silence is not inherently religious.” –Sandra Day O’Conner

Ain’t got nothing to say today.  So I offer silence.

August 20, 2011

“Anything that contradicts experience and logic should be abandoned.” –His Holiness the Dalai Lama

Experience tells me that crazy shit can happen in our lives.  It also tells that many people take advantage of a generous nature in others.  Logic tells me it can’t rain every day.  It also stands to reason that nothing says up on a high forever.  Experience tells me that huge mood swings, the high highs and the low lows, are not nature states of being.  Logic tells me the day-to-day stuff as mundane as it is, presents us raw truth and clarity.

August 19, 2011

“There are some things you learn best in calm, and some in storm.” --Willa Cather

I’ve learned some important lessons from the people in my life over the years.  Here’s an impromptu list.

Debbie taught me ambitions based on sensual pleasures are fleeting.  Tim taught me to keep my phone face turned downward and hidden from view.  Joanne taught me women can be conniving philanders too.  Eric taught me how to guard my wallet and the best places where to hide bottles of booze.  Kathleen taught me not all strangers are a Good Samaritan.  Leslie taught me jealously can be a very destructive force.  Jenny taught me a drunk can throw a frozen turkey with a lot of force.  Mom taught me blood doesn’t always make a family.  Dad taught me brute force is a frustrated man’s weapon.  Mark taught me that sometime it’s not good to hang on for ‘old times sake’.  Mike taught me that emotions unchecked can stunt one’s growth.

August 18, 2011

“Force always attracts men of low morality.” –Albert Einstein

Kinky folk, we are a different breed.  Some are extremely comfortable with giving/asking permission with everyday activities, like when to exercise, eat and use the toilet.  Some are not.  Actions I may consider critical to maintain a healthy M/s relationship someone would consider abusive.  When we accept the different expressions of kink within M/s dynamics, we create a healthy community.  We compromise the health of our community when we allow negative judgment and ignorance to exist unchecked.